Reverb10 – Day 20: Beyond Avoidance
December 20 – Beyond Avoidance.
What should you have done this year but didn’t because you were too scared, worried, unsure, busy or otherwise deterred from doing? (Bonus: Will you do it?)
(Author: Jake Nickell)
Be direct in my communication
Today, I was reading some handouts about communication, and more in detail about giving and receiving feedback.
One advice really drew my attention: no soft soap. The author wrote that, the more you talk around the message, the smaller the chance the other person actually understands your need.
Too often I’ve felt that people are neglecting my questions and need for help or advice. However, I never realized that this is caused by the fact that I never dare to state how important or urgent something is. All this is because I am afraid to be impolite or too demanding.
In fact, when formulating clearly what I need and when I need it, I simply convey my message in a clear way. When I need something, I shouldn’t be afraid to ask for it.
In the end, one of the goals of a PhD project is to learn from your advisor, which is only possible when you ask him/her questions.
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